OUCH! I AM STAINED! WHAT CAN BE DONE?

Period has come to stay. It can be disturbing and tiring but trust me, you need to learn how to live with it and manage it. There were times I’ve begged God to make it stop for a while but the thing no gree stop.

Period is not shameful in any way. I understand it can be embarrassing but there’s really nothing to be ashamed about. I’m super sure that every lady out there has been through this phase of getting stained at ridiculous places. Let me quickly share my experience with you.

Nov 9, 2019, was a bloody day to God’s glory! I wish the ground would open up to swallow me but I also learned that you can not shame the shameless. I became ruthlessly shameless after this incident. If I could handle this situation, then there’s nothing I cannot handle in my entire life.

Period days for me are just times when I want to be alone and get enough rest. I feel that’s my break for the month but I decided to bend my laws for my cousin.

My cousin was getting married and my mum could not go because she was sick. She reached out to me and begged me to represent her at the venue. The normal ME hardly goes out on such days but I decided to honor my cousin and at least show my face. Well, I did not tell my mum that I was on my period and the flow was heavy.

I was on my period, and I timed myself from my house to the venue. An hour and 30 minutes should get me to Ibadan. I left home wearing a lilac short gown. I boarded a bus and sat with the driver and as we went, another woman sat down beside me! God was so good, we encountered very serious traffic around the Ibadan expressway, and we ended up staying longer than usual.

Immediately I saw the thick traffic, I became terrified. What will happen? I timed myself. Finally, it happened, my cloth was badly stained. I was confused.

I summoned courage and told the woman sitting beside me what the matter was, she understood. It will amaze you that I pulled my gown in the bus with the help of the woman beside me and a lady sitting at the back. I left home wearing a skirt under my gown and took extra clothing.

The driver was so confused, he kept asking what was wrong, I was just nodding my head. When he saw I was pulling off my clothes beside him, he knew something was wrong. It was when we got to the bus stop that he understood. We got to Ibadan finally and it was time to get down.

Do you guys know Iwo road, that busy place where things are being sold to travelers?

I got down from the bus and behold, I was bloody. Both the chair and my skirt were dripping blood like a running tap.

I burst into tears immediately. Before I knew what was happening, people surrounded me and were just looking at me. I was ashamed.

Instead of looking, can you help me out?

I stood for a few seconds, not knowing what to do. I slapped myself and came back to what was happening.

Immediately I took my stained lilac gown to clean whatever it could clean.

I just told myself in tears, you cannot shame the shameless, I picked up myself and left the crowd. I cried at the wedding venue, I changed my clothes, and I was better.

Note; I did not leave the crowd shameful, I walked away with my shoulders high as the dignified lady I am though I was in tears.

I know some of us would have experienced something like this.

You need to prepare for your period when going out. These are some of the things I do.

1. Go out prepared.

When I am going out of the house for a long time, I make sure I’m carrying a bag that can contain at least 2 clothes, a sweatshirt, undies, tissue papers, and at least 4 extra pads. I don’t go out unprepared. The only issue I might encounter is getting a restroom to do what is necessary.

Going out prepared saves you a lot of stress. For example, if your brown skirt gets stained, you can use your sweatshirt on your waist to cover it up by the time you get to the restroom.

2. Wear dark clothing.

Black dresses save you from getting the stain known. A black gown or skirt will do enough justice to the stain. Do well to wear dark clothing during that period.

3. Ask for help.

I know this can be very hard but asking for help too puts you in a better position. No lady won’t understand “please I am stained, help me”. Ask anyone around for help. It can be for an extra pad, a restroom or to help get tissues.

4. Don’t be ashamed.

I know it can be very shameful but you have learned that it is nothing to be ashamed about. After that incident, anytime I get stained in public, you won’t find me bowing my head in shame even if I am in the midst of a crowd.

The first thing that comes to my mind is a way out. If anybody notices (even a guy), I don’t care. What I am concerned about is a solution.

5. Celebrate yourself.

I do this often. I celebrate myself after such an incident in case it happens. It shows how brave, courageous, and strong I am. It keeps my morale high and helps get rid of shame.

I hope these tips I shared help you out in such weird times. Don’t forget that your stains do not define you at that moment.

You are not a dirty lady nor are careless. Shit happens.

I’m a dignified young lady. I am shameless and my stained clothes don’t define me, and same with you.

Until I write again, be good.

Do you have a similar story just as mine, feel free to share it with me through my Gmail; adefunkeadeniyi6@gmail.com

I long to hear from you!

Cheers✌