OPINIONS: DO THEY REALLY MATTER?
There’s a lot of narrative and opinion that is trending here and there. Permit me to say that the acclaimed society that we talk about is YOU and I. We’re the one pushing narratives that seem to be hindering people and limiting them to do less of what they ought to do.
While growing up, people had an opinion about me which I wanted to change. In the process of doing that, I was dragged into wanting to please others. I was pleasing others because I wanted to make them happy with me and fit in to whatever standard they built.
It’s funny to know that the more I tried to relate with them, the more I knew I could not please them or fit in. It dawned on me that I had a place in my space and in the society. The best thing I should have done was conformed and stand for what I wanted to be known for. In the long run, whatever I stand for will draw the right people to me.
It was indeed a struggle with the society. It was a fight of fitting in. It’s sad know that I could not fit in. I had to keeping changing every now and then. I am not an Amoeba that would change at any given situation or circumstance.
After seeing that, I crawled back into my shell, shutting out the voices of everyone’s standard for my life. The mistake I made was not involving myself with the people who had the same thinking like I did, but instead, I stayed away from everybody, and made a promise to myself to not care about what anybody thinks of me.
The time that I stayed alone was a very long period of time. I got into myself that people to a large extent didn’t matter. Having or not having friends didn’t matter to me, all I wanted to do was live.
Well, I’m not totally out of my shell, but here I am, surrounding myself with the people that think the way I do, belonging to a society that looks beyond the flaws of human, and more importantly, not limiting me to a short sighted standard.
I do not overlook opinions in terms of advice for growth from people that are passionate to see me succeed, but I pull down every opinions about me that doesn’t hold water.
I discard every opinion that wants to close my mouth. I discard every opinion that makes me see myself as less. I discard every opinion that wants me to please everybody. I discard every opinion that limits my ability.
It’s very okay and normal not to be loved by everybody. I don’t have to stem high to the specifications of any human. It’s normal for me not to be in your class, but it’s abnormal to have an opinion about me that wants to make me fit into your standards. Don’t try to!
All I want to do is live my life in accordance to the pattern drawn out by God who knows me, sees me, and has searched the skeleton in my cupboard, yet He still loves me. This is all that matters to me.
I choose to rise above the limitations of others. I choose to rise above the faulty opinion of others.
I have just one life to live and I wouldn’t live it wanting to please people that doesn’t look like my future.
I give up on the selfish opinion of others and I advice that you do same. It can be a lonely path, but I can tell you that it is liberating.
I choose freedom over the careless abandon of words to shortchange all that I can ever be. I say NO!
If you have problem with me and all that I ever want to do, I advice that you take the exit door because you will never be strong enough to pull me down.
It’s a promise.
