Adefunke Adeniyi
2 min readAug 8, 2021

BOTTLED UP!

Emotions...

As much as you can, get rid of bottled up emotions. The bitter reality of it is that when you will spill, it can be at the wrong time and to the wrong person.

Nobody wants to understand that you were choked. Nobody wants to know if you meant it or not. Nobody cares what happened. The only thing they know is that you've spilled it and whatever you've spilled will be held against you.

The truth is, you are going to enjoy the consequences thereafter and trust me, it's not interesting.

The regrets are not from here. I cannot overemphasize this. You may not understand until you experience it.

Everybody has fragile spaces in their lives where others are not allowed in. When the contrary happens, don't smile. Speak up and don't bury anything. Spill it as soon as possible.

The spilling happens without you thinking straight. Emotions are fickle and they fade away with time. After spilling, your eyes are open to the realities.

You're left to pick up the pieces of what's left and that is a very lonely journey. If you're blessed with people, good for you.

Emotions are very good and at the same time very deadly and dangerous. It can do and undo. Nobody thinks about who you've been then, they think about who you're now. Everything that will happen will reflect around how you blew up. It's a very sad reality.

Another sad truth, you're worse than how you first felt. Take heed. Be careful, very careful.

The funniest things is, you can blow up to the wrong thing. Gone are the days when we live in a society that bears the burden of one another. It's different now. Things have changed.

You're going to carry it alone and nurse your wounds. You're going to cry alone and at the same time, you might heal, but it will take time. You cannot jump the healing process. It's even funny how healing is more painful than the wounds.

Take care of your emotions. Don't wait till you blow. Don't wait to get choked.

If you're messed up & you're dealing with one, I'll advise you pick up the pieces of what's left of you. Don't wait for anybody to do that for you. Pick yourself, dust yourself, and decide to do better.

If crying makes you feel better, do it. If talking to yourself will help, do it. If screaming under the duvet and closing up helps, do it. Just do what helps. How we respond to things are different.

Know it is not over. Know you're not less of you're and don't allow anybody make you feel that way.

It's my prayers that you heal fast. It's my wish that you move on. It's good that you deal with it.

You'll be fine and things will take shape again. And as you grow, document your growth, you'll be surprised at how far you've grown. It's not over until it is over.

I'm rooting in for you. Stay strong and keep being amazing. Also know that you're not alone, never.

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Adefunke Adeniyi
Adefunke Adeniyi

Written by Adefunke Adeniyi

I am a passionate writer and a media juggernaut. Join me as I navigate adulthood with humor and heart!

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