AM I REALLY MISSING OUT?

Anytime I remember this thing I’m about to discuss, I just smile because I know I’m covered.

I’ve met people, and I’ve discussed with them and to an extent, I’ve associated with them in different ways. Most times, when we are opportune to discuss, one question they ask me is; ARE YOU IN A RELATIONSHIP?

I just smile and with a confident look, I tell them a big NO without apology.

Well, I can dare to say I’ve never been in a relationship before till now, and now I’m still very single and not searching because I’m not meant to search. They’re (guys) supposed to search for me.

I liked a particular guy back then when I was in JSS 3, we became close friends, but I can’t say we dated. We were friends who liked each other. We parted ways because my mum wasn’t in support of it, and besides I was still very young, but I liked him o. And I felt very bad when we stopped being friends.

So, I have never dated. Just had friends, good ones at that.

When I tell people I’m not in a relationship at my age, they get surprised, and some don’t believe. Yes, it’s fine if you don’t believe.

More importantly, they make me feel I’m missing out on something important by not being in a relationship.

Really? Am I missing out on something?
It’s funny, but deep down in my heart, I know there’s nothing I’m missing.

One more important question that people ask is; Why are you not in a relationship?

Well personally, I know and understand that there’s time for everything, and the fact that others are doing something at a particular time doesn’t mean it applies to me too. I personally like doing things according to times and seasons.

I’m writing this to encourage anybody who’s undergoing pressure because the society or anybody feels you should start one.

Let me point it out here that you’re not missing anything if you’re not in a relationship. Relationship is WORK in case you don’t know, and it’s beyond the “I love you, and you love me” mentality we’re parading about. There’s more to it, and you cannot afford to start one unprepared.

Being single is one of the best things that has ever happened to me, and I’m maximizing it so well, because very soon, this single phase will pass, and I’m faced with another phase entirely.

At some point, I got perturbed by this relationship thing, but at every point I just knew it wasn’t time yet, and that strengthened me to an extent, and I’ve gotten to that point where it doesn’t bother me. I also spoke with people about this subject, and one of the important thing they said to me is; I should not venture into a relationship without God’s backing and my “why”.

Your why in any life adventure is very important because to a large extent it keeps you going even when everything seem to be fading away. In as much as relationship can be needed, it’s also important that you find your “why”.

If you’ve not gotten your why, it’s better you stay single, build yourself, do what you ought to do, and as you walk along, your why will always come.

Being single has also afforded me full attention to myself (Jesus, work, life, family, and friends). And I do not take this phase for granted.

To every single out there, you’re not missing anything. Enjoy being single. Take care of yourself. Maximize this time judiciously. Be adventurous. Do what makes you happy. Live life to the fullest.

You can be single and very happy.

Don’t tie your joy to having a guy.

Let every ounce of your living portray happiness because in the end, love will find you.

You’re loved, and Jesus loves you too.